Sorry for going off blog topic again, I know I said I had a lot of posts in mind and I do, but sometimes you come across something that sparks the nerdrage. Today is one of those days.
Now, I tend to try and stay apprised of how things are going out there in the big wide world via following the news. This allows me to stay informed on current affairs but also occasionally I’ll come across something that only following the internet will actually serve up. Hence this article from the BBC. Go ahead and take a gander, I’ll wait here while you digest what is going on there.
Ok, done? Right, hopefully you are of the same opinion as I am and that is that surely there is, at the least, a small conflict of interest going on in this story. I know nothing fits the computer nerd stereotype more than some balding, middle-aged singleton living in their parent’s basement playing video games in their pants while downloading copious amounts of videos involving overly-amorous busty ladies. I know that isn’t really the meat and veg of the article but you have a guy that makes his living out of whipping his manhood out isn’t it rather trite for him to then decry that his main source of income is less salubrious than violent video games? Let’s examine this shall we?
Should little Johnny have access to either of these materials? In my opinion no, pr0n isn’t up there on my list of “Things to do with my Free Time” anyway but I understand how prevalent it is in society these days. The fact that you gave little Johnny a PC and allowed it to be in his bedroom where he spends a lot of time without parental supervision may be a situation that needs reviewing before decrying the evils of various media types. Is one more damaging than the other when we roll out the usual “think of the children” alarmist slogan? In one we have a fantasy environment removed from the law of action/consequence that occurs in real life, most people are perfectly aware of making a distinction between what happens in a game and what is acceptable within the societies in which we live.
Now, seeing two people wrapped together in various states of genital stimulation is not removed from any sense of reality. Even with in the media that these things are performed, whether as a “proper” movie with a semblance of a plot etc.. or photos published. Any person offering their consent can be caught up in performing the same acts that are depicted in this form. I think that pornography reduces the human character into a state ruled purely by the more bestial instincts of our characters. I am a married man and can appreciate the benefits of a sexual relationship to increase the love and bond that exists between two people that have made vows to each other. At its most basic sex is the process by which life is created and that power should never be something that we take lightly, nor for granted. Depicting that act in the manner it is shown in pron is something I find quite disturbing, that is just my opinion though. If people want to recreate these things in their own bedrooms then go for it, you have a choice here. However, little Johnny certainly shouldn’t be viewing this kind of thing. I understand that currently there is a trend to treat all our kids as adults, or that we shouldn’t hide things from them, but surely the rules that we abided by growing up were set by our parents to help us out. Why shouldn’t we do the same thing today?
My opinion is that when children are accessing the Internet or playing their games a good parent should vet what they are doing. If something has an 18 rating it’s a sure bet that it isn’t really suitable for people of a much younger age. I’m not going to get into the argument here whereby “kids will see it even if we stop it at home.” If that happens then there may not be much you can do about it, however, you can police what you do at home and set standards for your kids and let them know what you find acceptable, you have the choice to set those standards and help your kids to keep them and understand why. Both of these artforms can be harmful when viewed by people who will not understand them. I’d be much more tolerant of a video game than my (hypothetical) kids getting access to porn. I already plan on not letting them use a PC unsupervised and with software restrictions. I will set what they can and cannot play, irrelevant of how “unfair” that may be seen.
This article to me is another example of the concept we adhere to these days that someone else is at fault for the problems of my kids. It can’t possibly be anything to do with me, I gave birth to them afterall, surely I shouldn’t have to do anything else with them, school etc.. is the place whereby they should learn what they need? I don’t agree to this, the foundation of all learning is the home, the world does not teach things I agree with all the time. If I want to choose what to teach my kids, what standards and morals I expect them to uphold I have to do that at home. I do not accept that I can palm off that responsibility to other people, should I do that I empower them to mark how my kids will behave and what they will find acceptable. I fully expect to have to take an involved role with my children and let them know what I expect of them. Will they get to play violent video games, well, I did so I’d be hypocritical if I stopped them completely, but I will look at stuff individually and make a judgement of when it is appropriate. Personally I never feel that pornography is appropriate and I will have to educate my children therein, however I do not expect to be told by someone who has made a career out of the so-called “adult” entertainment industry that their smut is not as bad as what can be seen in another industry. especially when that industry is already being hyped as the cause of a lot of the problems young people face today.
Irrelevant of which side of the pr0n/gaming divide you find yourself I do not think there can be any doubt that the real issue lies with people not taking responsibility for the choices and their action/inaction in the spheres they find themselves.
Normal programming should resume tomorrow /rantoff